. . . referred to from here on out as tBCW. Erin, Happy, and others have proved to my satisfaction that if tBCW really does exist out there, she shouldn't. tBCM either. Okay, so maybe there are a few females out there who actually do enjoy having this box to fit into, and it's comfortable, and they're good at it, and all that. Whenever there's an unreachable standard, there are always a few exceptional people who can reach that standard and enjoy congratulating themselves on how much better they're doing than everyone else. But don't we all have better things to be doing than checking off boxes about how we're doing? Spending time tracking our progress takes time away from our making progress. Don't we all know that we have enough to be working on without piling more on top of each other? Anyways.
So what I want to know is, what does a church of that look like? And how do we avoid this:
When do we recognize that if it fits in a box, it's too small for God? How do we keep our theology big enough for God, and how can we grow into our theology? How can we do it together, as a people, as a *community* of faith? Without worshipping at the altar of our rampant American over-individulism? For surely, while God calls us as individuals, he also calls us as a body . . .
I want a community that *doesn't* want me to be tBCW. I want to walk this road with other women and tell them that they don't have to be either. That they can be something better than that. I want to raise my daughters with this understanding. I want to be the best me that I can be. Which might actually involve doing some of the things on the BCW list . . . I can only hope that I'm too focused on loving God to remember to check off the boxes.